Do you see red flags here, and what should I do? help!? {rsstitle}
Question by REinvestments: Do you see red flags here, and what should I do? help!?
Been dating this girl about six weeks. She seems like a wonderful girl who could do no wrong and is totally into me. Now the newness has worn off but we still get along great but: I noticed she hasn’t told any of her friends about me, even after we go away for the weekend. Wouldn’t add me to myspace saying she never uses it, but i found her profile (set to private) and she is on it everyday, was hesitant to add me to facebook but i can’t see her wall and she has her relationship status not shown, was extremely protective of her phone once when I used the calculator on it and she thought i was getting into it like she didnt want me to see something. We live 5 minutes from each other yet sometimes it feels like I have to pull teeth to see her. I’ve asked if there are any other guys, she says no, says she is very happy with me, calls me one in a million, the best guy ever, etc. Am I looking too much into this, or are my concerns justified?
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Answer by Joser
Ask her why is she scared to flaunt you? If she really is happy then she would be out showing her joy and happiness with you. If i had a gf that did that to me…I’d leave in a quick second
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Yeah your concerns are justified. It seems like she’s being a lil sneaky. I’d stakeout her house! Lol
Newly into a relationship people don’t necessarily want to spill their whole life to you. Remember, sometimes people lie just because they don’t know what to say. Perhaps she didn’t feel comfortable saying I don’t want to publicly declare our relationship yet or I want my myspace and facebook to stay just mine for now. Just take it slow and invest into it as much as she is willing.
I think you are just too much into it. You need something else to do other than thinking about her all day long. She will be back to your arms like a little bird again soon once you let her be free for a week or so.
This is just girl thing.
Sounds like she is probably using you, and has othe guys or another guy on the side. She has certainly not made he mind up to be exclusive with you, so you have no right to complain. She may not be ready for a committed relationship yet, and just hasn’t told you that she is seeing other people yet.
look farther!
create a fake myspace and add as friend. tell her that u saw she was cute and are jus adding people since ur new to myspace. use mozilla firefox and if u cant see her comment than when added as a friend go to her profile and clich view (next to the file, edit, history, etc buttons on the top left of the internet web page), page style, and select no stlye. now u see her comments.
jus tryin to help u out
I’d be scared. But you never know too.
You may as well just trust her if she is nice, but keep your mind open for better girls if they come along until she is ready to fully give herself to you.
Yeah, lots of red flags all over the place there.
Normal: Girl gets a b/f and wants to get her friends opinion of him and see if he’ll get along with them. Prefers it if they can all hang out together. Girl wants to start to build a life with the guy and see him all the time. Girl opens up to the guy and wants a relationship that has no secrets. Girl shows off and brags about the fact that she found a wonderful bf to everyone.
Your relationship: Girl doesn’t want her friends to know about you and doesn’t care their opinions of you. She doesn’t want to build a life with you. Is hiding stuff on her myspace page from you and lying about it. Doesn’t want to share a life with you and is excluding you from her social life (myspace, facebook, cell phone, etc). She’s not telling you the truth (myspace) so she’s obviously not valuing the open relationship aspect. Girl doesn’t make it a priority to spend time with you.
You should investigate your concerns.
Discuss your concerns with her. Otherwise, take this very slow. Sounds like how a married woman would behave, or possibly one who has an abusive ex in her recent past. You don’t want to too involved until you know the risk. I wouldn’t advise any more weekends until you’re certain.