Trying to make ex boyfriend mad, fake “in a relationship” status?
Question by Kelly: Trying to make ex boyfriend mad, fake “in a relationship” status?
I know how stupid this sounds.. but this guy is getting on my nerves! It’s been almost 2 months and he has so far rubbed bikini baristas, strippers, etc in my face.. just recently he tried to “hang out” with one of my closest friends! (someone he *knows* is off limits, and I made that very clear during our relationship how i felt about it because I told him a story about my ex. Plus he feels friends are off limits too. Wtf? ) This has been the most hurtful thing, but I don’t know how much more I can take..
Before you guys say, oh this guy was a jerk blah blah blah he was NOT like this when we were dating or ever for that matter. He never was interested in those kinds of girls (baristas, strippers, bartenders etc) . He never had a thing for my friend, even though she was hot too, he never wanted her.
We loved each other, he broke up with me in the stupidest way. basically thought I was breaking up with him because I deactivated facebook, and when i logged back in I saw that he changed his status to “single” because I “abandoned him” .. then I texted him and he said it was for the best (we werent talking for a while cause he was going through stuff and was depressed). I should add that he never felt good enough and had a low self-esteem, I think he ultimately broke up with me because he didn’t feel good enough..
So.. Since then, I’ve been bummed, yes. But I’ve been focusing on college and not posting ridiculous, butthurt stuff on facebook. I haven’t been to any parties so no naughty pictures. Not openly flirting with guys. Now, I’m just angry. I want to make a statement. I’m blocking him from fb cause I dont want to look at his page, but I’m wondering if I should change my status to “in a relationship” not with anyone in particular but just blank. I think I am truly over this guy and nothing else will happen so I won’t have to explain it later, but my closest gf’s will know..
What do you guys think? I let this guy into my heart, i fully supported him through EVERYTHING, he broke my heart and makes me seem like the bad guy, doing all this stuff that is hurtful, etc. I just want to go out with a bang and make a small statement. In a strange way, I want him to at least experience some discomfort.. I havent tried to make him jealous at all.
Also he told that friend of mine before that he was suicidal afterwards because of the stuff going on in his life.. not sure if it has to do with us breaking up or what.. also there has been no contact after the breakup.
Thanks.. Please try to be understanding, i’m extremely mad. lol… OR is this WAY to messy and I should just block him and get on with my life ??
Thanks guys, do u think i should leave it alone completely and not even block him? I feel like i need to block him anyways though for my own good..
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Answer by ASHLEY
Girlll NOOO ! I’ve been there and DONE THAT ! The best way you can make your ex mad is SHINE BRIGHT LIKE A DIAMOND ! . meaning… Be happy. show him that your happy. with or with out him. it sounds annoying but faking in a relationship will just lead to him asking you all these questions about when and how did it happen.. and you’ll continue to lie him by answering that question. and in the end, your going to be the one getting hurt/Mad Again. when he Decides to go into a relationship also.. A REAL RELATIONSHIP. and then when you explain how yours was fake, he’ll just think your pathetic and a liar . I’ve honestly went through exactly what you went through
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To be honest, the best way to go out with a bang is by acting like you don’t care at all. If you were to do something to get revenge, it would show you still have feelings, even if those feelings were negative, so by acting indifferent to his actions and like nothing’s getting to you, it will make him feel so much worse as opposed to trying to make him feel bad intentionally. If he had a low self-esteem and felt like you were too good for him anyway, there’s really no use in getting revenge because you know he knows you’re better than him anyway, and if he was to call your bluff on the relationship status, he would know it was an attempt to make him jealous and it would only be good for him.
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You’re still in love with him completely and mad that he dumped you. This is why you want to hurt him emotionally because he hurt you. This is why you care about what he still thinks of you.
But pure and simple, Block him and don’t care about anything that he does. Give yourself around 6 months to a year before you start dating again, because if you date now, anybody talking to you right now is practically a rebound. Seems you’re taking this a bit too hard I know it’ll hurt but just let him go completely, which means no contact whatsoever because if you drag this problem into another relationship, it won’t be fair for the other person, and It wont work until you’re completely over you ex.
As for your friend. Talk to her about this and if she does not respect what you want than she isn’t a friend. Hope this Helps. Cheers.
P.S. get out with your friends and party. Use a distraction and stop thinking about this.