Please help, I don’t know if my online girlfriend is fake or not?
Question by The Suplex Press: Please help, I don’t know if my online girlfriend is fake or not?
Okay so we have been dating for 2 months now. We’ve actually known each other for a year and we’ve dated once but only for a month not even, maybe a few weeks. I broke up with her and we didn’t speak til November (7 months after we broke up) and then started going out about 2 weeks after that. She’s honestly the most perfect girl out there, i can’t find a thing wrong with her, we have a lot in common and thats where the problem is. I know that when you meet someone online and they seem to be too perfect they most likely aren’t real. We don’t agree on everything but we have the same taste in movies, same sense of humor, we like some of the same food, we both like video games but we have some differences. I’ve fallen in love with her so much that its crazy how fast things are going, she keeps wanting to meet in person and shes already got two dates planned to meet but I don’t wanna meet her if shes not real,
so i dont know if its a good thing she wants to meet in person or a bad thing. We’ve only talked on the phone a few times and it was a for a few hours each time. She recently told me we can’t talk on the phone anymore until the 25th because her bill is too high and she also offered to skype with me. I’ve mentioned skype to her a few times and shes said okay to it but we’ve never skyped before. I wanna know if skype is a good way to tell if shes real, but i also heard that people can use fake webcams on skype with prerecorded video so im freaking out about that too. We met on tumblr and she sends me pictures of herself all the time and every picture looks like her, but then again it could be from a real girls profile and this person is just taking those real pictures and sending them to me.
She doesn’t have a twitter and i think i heard her say something about not having a facebook cause she doesn’t like it, now i don’t know if thats a bad thing because i know some people dont like facebook but like usually thats a bad sign if you meet someone online and they dont have a facebook, she only has a tumblr. we text all the time, and everything else seems to be okay except there are some flaws in her story like with school.
I looked up NYC school schedules and hers didn’t match up to what the school schedule says (i dont know her exact school but i just looked up nyc school schedule on google, not sure if the same schedule goes for all schools), but usually her stories dont match up with school, there have only been a few incenses where her story was kind of weird. now all of the sudden she says she can graduate early in about 3 weeks but she says she might now do it. but she claims shes smart and gets all the help she can from the teachers. I dont know, can some just help me out here, give me tips and advice.
I know that when you meet people online and the other seems to good to be true they are usually fake but how do i know i didnt meet my dream girl this time? Can i just get some help? I really love this girl and i don’t want her to be fake, any tips or advice would help thank you
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Answer by Jenny town tonight
Rule number 1 don’t date online
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seems pretty fake to me, i met alot of online people and 95% of them where fake, dont be a victim of online dating that will just disappoint you and you are wasting youre time…
A person that doesnt have facebook or twitter is almost impossible nowadays ..
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tell her she should send you a picture with your name written on her hand or something so you can keep it as your wallpaper on your phone LOL
Good luck
Wow. I feel your pain. I don’t have a Facebook page so that means nothing. Set up a time to meet and stick to it. If she shows no problem. If she doesn’t well I think you know what the real deal is.
You sound paranoid to me.
She might have extra classes or even less classes because she’s going to graduate early.
I graduated early from a career preparation class.
Anyway, quit watching Catfish and go handle it like a man.
It’s highly unlikely that if you do skype, that she will use a fake recording.
Ask her straight up, if there is anything she is hiding.
Tell her you won’t be mad. (Which is just a way to help her talk.)
Just meet her in person.
If you like more than just her looks, then maybe you can get pass that.
The reason online people are fake, is generally because their appearance doesn’t reflect their inside.
If’s she’s fake, she’s only looking to be accepted for more than her looks.
Well, if you meet in person, be sure it’s at a public place with enough witnesses, & not some country restaurant out in the middle of nowhere.& since it’s your first time meeting, DON’T invite her into your home.She’d then know where you live, & if a creepy man showed up, he might bug the life out of you.Make sure you hang with her in a public place, like a mall, & make sure it’s at the midpoint for both of you, or closer to her, that way she has less excuses about why she couldn’t make it.Go on three dates with her; look up places near your midpoint, & travel there to hang with her.Make sure it’s something you guys can do for at least 3-4 hours(if not longer), so that way you guys can have more time to socialize.If things go well on these three dates, maybe invite her to your house to visit, because then you may trust her more.
Skype might be useful to know if she is real. You ask her to do something specific on camera -like write a specific word on a sheet of paper and show it on camera-. That can not be faked with prerecorded footage.
Also, after doign the skype test, ask her to meet. When you go there, ask a friend to accompain you, and bring a hidden little knife, just for security reasons. Once you be there, and you have proved that she is real, ask your friend to leave -and take the knife with him-. Obviously, you never show the knife to her, as she could be scared.
That is what I would do.