Q&A: How do you get over losing someone you’ve talked to every single day for a year?
Question by Rachael: How do you get over losing someone you’ve talked to every single day for a year?
My ex boyfriend and i were still very very close after we broke up, we were best friends. Today he decided to make a decision that would include never talking to me in person, on the phone, online or seeing him ever again, but in return he got new happiness. I guess i’m just wondering how or when i get over it.
Best answer:
Answer by Julezy_x
Omg you are exactly the same as me
My ex decided never to talk to me again and im so hung up on him. Its been over a year since we split up and probally about 5 months since we last spoke, and im STILL not over him.
It takes time and if you find out the answer to get over him, let me know, as i REALLY need an answer aswell :/
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now……go out with some girlfriends, get drunk, flirt with some dudes and move on…….you got your whole life ahead of you
Ask him why he wants to broke with you ??? from his answer you will know what kind of person you were with all this time then you can heal your self.
It’s really hard, but you really just need to ignore everything. When you think of him, think of something else. Eventually he won’t be in your mind, you may still be in love with him, but at least you won’t know. Best I can come up with. I was in a situation a little like this. Honestly once you just stop thinking of him and you start hanging with friends or do something you love, he’s out of your mind, and eventually he won’t be there at all.
You don’t get over it. Maybe in time it will fade, but don’t get over it. Forgive, but do not forget. It sounds like what you had was too precious to forget about. Try to move on from loving him in a romantic way, but never forget your friend.
you will get over it in time trust me! i have been there, just let your self go threw the grieving process, cry, be angry and all of that, just don’t get yourself to wrapped up in the situation these things happen and it is okay, we learn to love threw these situations and we grow from them and become better people, you will too! all you need to do is try your best to pick up the pieces and go on living your life, chances are, he still cared about you and it hurt him to much to just continue being friends, if not its still okay, there isn’t anything wrong with you and you cant let it take Control of you!
its never easy but since thats what he wants, do yourself a favor and try to start living without him, find other things to do and stay productive. its a new chapter in your life make it better
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It gets better and you will move on. It’s all up to you and how you are going to motivate yourself into looking forward and not back. If someone can just cut you out of their life like that, they don’t need to be in it anymore. People change-and not always for the better. I’m sorry you got hurt.
It’s really a hard thing to go thru i know and it hurts from so deep down that you’ll wonder if the pain ever will get better’ and for a while it won’t but in time it will get easier not because it’s left you or your heart ‘ just because time has run it’s course and after a while you will love and make a great friend with another young man.I have been thu some real heartaches and felt like my heart would explode but in time it left little by little inch by inch and yours will too’just give it time’ and try to keep your mind a bit bust so you cannot sit and think so much about him ‘not for a while if possible..Lots of luck and it does get easier .
Sweetie… First of all, breathe… I can imagine how u’re hurting… Now lets break this down…
Do u really want to get over him? Yeah? Ok den u gotta follow what I say and keep up the willpower.. This is not an easy road but it’ll get u there… If you follow everything that is… And do not cheat… U’ll only fool urself and land up being sad again…
1) Delete everything that is even in the REMOTEST related to him or reminds u of him… That cute msg/email, that song that reminds u of the two of u, pics, videos u get the drift… EVRYTHING… Delete now! U may find it very painful and may want to cling on to a thing or two… This is a test of how much u wanna move on! Jus do it… Think of things that weren’t pleasant, Things he did to hurt u, things that ticked u off… And once angry jus delete…
2) DO NOT and I REPEAT DO NOT respond, reply to any ANY ANY attampts made by him to get in touch with u… He’ll find his happiness and then will call to c how u r doin (secretly glad u haven’t moved on…)… FOR UR OWN GOOD DO NOT PICK HIS CALLS< REPLY TO EMAILS?MSGS and most certainly do not meet him... 3) No initiating contact... this goes without saying but still... DO not initiate any contact... Stay away... It is true 'out of sight is outta mind' and u'll see the difference! 4) Hang out with friends - Keep urself insanely busy! Hang out wid frens, party away, go watch movies etc etc... Hanging out with ppl u like will eleviate ur mood and keep u happy and away from his thots all day!!! U may come home and feel a bit sad in the night but u'll be so tired will at the hangin out u'll sleep! 5) Hit that gym NOW! U're obviously hurt, angry depressed, frustrated or maybe all of the above! Channel this energy into something good! Hit the gym, join swimming, running, aerobics or even kick boxing! Exercise releases endorphins - hormones that make u happy! And u get a sexy hot body on the side... Perfect I say! 6) Get a close from support system - catch hold of three of ur best friends with whom u can be totally honest with... And who wouldn't mind listenin to u and comforting u at 3 am! Talk ur issues out... DO not let the pain sit in... Talk about it... Sharing reduces pain! Jus talk... U'll be surprised at how many ppl have gone thru same stuff! N u'll feel a lot less alone! 7) Pray, Keep the Faith and be patient! Not sure whether u r religious and so m mentioning this towards the end... Pray, my dear, pray... And He will give u strength... U'll see it everywhere... He gives signs of hope! U'll see it while its happening! If he has put u to it He will put u thru it! He has the faith that u can make it... So jus put ur heart into prayer and u'll see him healing u... Kepp the faith and patience... Its goin to take a while to get over someone u trusted, cared for and loved for so long.. U brought ur guard down... U let someone come so close to ur heart.. The void is painful no doubt! So it'll take some time... But u'll be there! There is light at the end of the tunnel! 8) Do not go straight on to date or more with the next guy u see! Many ppl make this mistake... they think getting over someone means getting into someone else's pants! But sweetie, its usually rebound and the pain after is worse! U feel disgusted with urself... U get more confused and in the process some innocent person gets used! U need to get off all ur baggage before u get into a new relationship... Its like physical hurt - U need to heal first to be able to run again - if u get hurt and still run chances are u'll end up more injured... 9) Eat well - When hurting one doesn't feel like eating... But it is important to do so! U have to eat else u'll sink into depression more and more... Stay healthy and u'll feel better... And then again u need a lotta energy to party and hit the gym... So eat well darlin! (No binging though... stay healthy!) Well... I know I may have come across preachish but its jus that I dealt with it too! If some one had given me this list earkier I'd have moved on far earlier than I did! Lol... I've moved on entirely! So can u... It'll take sometime but believe me, u'll get there...