Q&A: I need happily married women to answer this question? Widows who were married can also answer. Very important? {rsstitle}
Question by Ricky W: I need happily married women to answer this question? Widows who were married can also answer. Very important?
I am writing a book and a 60 year old woman who lost her husband 4 years previously is in it. The deceased husband is a very important part so to make it believable i need to know what its like to be married to a fantastic man, i would love to have examples of romantic outings and stuff. I would greatly appreciate someones email because i would love to ask a few more questions about this. Thank you for your help.
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Answer by almarj70
My mother (a widow) always talks about the little things that my dad used to do for her, like bringing her a cup of tea made just the way she liked it in bed every morning, buying her flowers for no reason, remembering their wedding anniversary every year and taking her out for a meal at their favourite Italian restaurant (she still goes there every year for dinner on her own on their anniversary) . She loved the way he would hug her (big bear hugs that would lift her off the floor) , . It wasn’t the grand gestures that she loved, but the little consideratee things that she remembers
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The things that my husband does that mean the most to me are how he tickles me until I’m laughing so hard I can hardly breath and then he’ll pull me close to him and kiss me or how he’ll make a sandwich just how I like it and take me on a picnic. I love how whenever he laughs I can’t help myself I laugh even if its not a good time to be laughing and how he tells me all the time that I’m the best. I love how now that we’re expecting he rubs my feet and back each evening while we watch a movie or tv show of my choosing and how he’ll mix up a big bowl of my favorite ice cream with whipped cream and toppings and we’ll share it with just one spoon.
We have had some incredibly romantic outings that I really enjoyed but I remember the little moments at home better than those outings.
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We didn’t have much money so we kept our place cool. Flannel pj’s were needed but I hated them. My husband found pink flannel pj’s but they were satin on the outside. They were soft and warm. I still have them after 35 years. It was so sweet.
For our 25th anniversary we were going to go to Egypt but it wasn’t safe at the time. We went to NYC to the museums and saw Egypt there. It was wonderful. We stayed at the Waldorf-Astoria, saw a play and visited museums.
Some things my husband has done:
He walked six miles to get me flowers because I had the car and he knew I was having a bad day. I found them sitting on my desk when I came home and couldn’t figure out where they came from until I found the card. He did it again three years later with the card saying, “I’ll always walk to get you flowers.”
Just an example of an everyday romantic thing.
This sounds fake, but I swear it really happened. We were eating at a restaurant and just being silly with each other and this elderly lady came up to us. She said we reminded her of her and her husband when she was younger and that he had Alzheimers now and doesn’t remember her very well and she misses him. She also said she paid for our meal because it was so nice to see two young people so in love and after we told her we were getting married in two weeks, said to consider it an early wedding present. This isn’t really a romantic outing I guess, but I just thought it was a cute story.
We went to the movies together to see Hostile. We both hated it and were discussing how much we hated it on the way home. I said, “Why in the world did we see that?” My husband replied, “Well, I thought you wanted to see it!” “No! I thought you wanted to see it!” We had a good laugh about that and decided we needed to communicate better.
We also often go to the movies together and have debates about what was good about the movie, what was bad and whether or not we really liked it.
We also often buy food and just go to a park, beach or something like that and sit and talk. We have a lot of fun just discussing whatever pops into our heads or even just sitting together enjoying each others company.
A last favorite thing about being with my husband is how we can be doing our own thing and still be connected somehow. Like he’s drawing in his sketchbook and I’m working on the computer and we just smile at each other randomly or say “I love you” randomly. It’s nice to have that kind of company without having to constantly be paying attention to each other.
Hope this helps somehow!
I am a widow. Now, I’m not 60, but I was married to a WONDERFUL man whom I adore. And he always made sure I knew how much he adored me. And everyone’s posts are right…it’s all the little things. It’s the every-day stuff that made up our life together. It’s the little things that you miss & always think about:
-Even if I was driving, he’d always get out to pump the gas so I wouldn’t have to get out of the car (especially when it was cold outside). Or he’d always be the one to run the movie back into the video store so I wouldn’t have to get out of the car.
-He had a bad case of insomnia sometimes, but I couldn’t sleep if he wasn’t next to me. So, he’d lay with me in bed until I’d fall asleep, and then he’d go downstairs to watch TV or something. But, sometimes I’d wake up because I’d notice he wasn’t there. So, I’d go downstairs & get him, and he’d come back upstairs and lay with me more until I fell asleep again–and he always did it without complaint.
-He stayed up late with me to help me study when I was getting my Masters degree. He’d quiz me for hours, even though he had no clue what he was asking!
-In the mornings, when he’d leave before me, he would always scrape the ice off my windshield on cold mornings.
-At a wedding or conference or something, he’d always bring me back a drink or snack if he went up to get one. Sometimes I didn’t even know he had gone to get something, but he ALWAYS thought of me to get me something while he was at it.
-Our engagement story is a great “romantic outings” story, if you really need one. He’d never had a ‘surprise birthday party’, so I decided I was going to throw one. But, he was one step ahead…he had told his best friend to ‘get me to throw him a surprise party’ so that we’d have all our friends in one place. When we walked in and everyone yelled “surprise”, I was feeling very proud!! But, then he turned to me and asked “Are you surprised?” Puzzled, I said, “Why would I be surprised?”, and that’s when he got down on 1 knee—at his own surprise birthday party.
I could really go on & on, but they are really only significant to me, because it’s US. I have YahooAnswers email activated if you have any other Q’s. I hope you find what you’re looking for.