Q&A: When should a girl have her 1st kiss or boyfriend?
Question by Jennifer24: When should a girl have her 1st kiss or boyfriend?
I am a 16 year old girl. I have never had my first kiss and I have never had a boyfriend. When do you think that this is gonna happen for me? Do you have any tips that I could use to meet the right guy? I’m getting to the point where I am just so desperate. Please help…thanks so much.
Best answer:
Answer by Amy Smith
Ur fine I’m 20 and never had a bf but I do know people are older than myself and never been kissed. Lol I wish I was young again like u. You’re time will come. Be yourself and put yourself out there.
What do you think? Answer below!
Don’t feel bad. Your time will come.. I’m 18 and I have never been kissed or had a BF.
DON’T be desperate! It’s okay if you haven’t kissed or been with a boy. I’m 17 now, and I’ve only had my first boyfriend in August. Don’t rush anything because whatevers meant to be, will be. I know you’ve heard that tons of times and I have too from other people when I was asking others for advice before I had a boyfriend. There’s a guy out there for you, you just have to wait. And TRUST ME, it’s true that when people say that love comes to you when you least expect it, it’s absolutely true. So don’t go out of your way to find a boyfriend because when it’s meant to be, ti will be. Hang in there!
Just be yourself, and be happy and content being just yourself, and the right guy will come along. I was 18 when I went on my first date with my only boyfriend and had my first kiss, and I’m married to that man today.
Hey I’m 16 Also, And the Big thing About this Is Not to look For Him, He Will Come into your Life When you least Expect It . like Right now I have Been With my boyfriend For 10 months and eveRythings Wonderful. And its like a very crazy way that i even started to talking to him, like i never expected us to be my boyfriend and expecually or this long , so thats how i know it was meant to be . Just don’t try to hard, the guy is probably right there also with you and you don’t even notice. Just Let It Flow , cuz that way you know that you didn’t force it , It Just Happpend. And About the first kiss also let that flow, because when you least expect it , it’s way adorable(: Trust Me. Well Good Luck About Everything<3/
Hi Jennifer,
You sound like a nice, decent, and sensitive young lady who simply needs a little reassurance.
Regarding you being 16 and never had a BF or a first kiss… that’s OK. Consider yourself lucky. You haven’t missed much. Why? Because lots of teenage and young adult guys are horndogs. Those types of guys are selfish, and are typically only interested in what girls have below the neck (i.e., they don’t care about the girl or her feelings).
What’s the best way to get a BF? Well, before plunging into getting a first BF… start off by thinking about the characteristics of different types of guys, how guys operate, and become familiar with some of the hazards of relationships.
How can you tell if a guy likes you? Depends on the guy. Some guys might try smiling, staring, being loud, showing off, or asking questions. Shy guys might be quiet, ignore you, act nervous, look at their feet when you’re nearby, blush, or start stuttering. Players will use their smooth charms, keep good eye contact, and make you feel like princess (but players are a wolf in sheep’s clothing and should be avoided at all cost).
So… assuming that you want to avoid common dating pitfalls, how about some free advice about guys and dating? OK.
What do teenage guys look for in a girl? Different guys look for different things… depending on the guy and his age.
Typical young immature teenage guys:
1. Hot body
2. Cute face
3. Hot body
4. Willing to fall for their lines of crap
5. Hot body
Typical jerks, players, and creeps:
1. Hot body
2. Dumb enough to fall for their lines of crap
3. Hot body
4. No Dad or big older brother to protect her
5. Hot body
Typical geeks:
1. Any reasonably attractive female who would be willing to date him
Typical mature & decent guys:
1. Nice personality (not too clingy, not too dramatic, not an airhead)
2. Nice body (hot would be good… but not required)
3. Cute face
4. Intelligent
5. Not a sl*t
Ironically, the jerks are usually the most fun and the best looking. Why? Because there are lots of foolish girls out there who have the following issues:
– No parental supervision
– Lack of a good Dad in their lives, so they readily accept the attention from jerks (because they crave male love and approval)
– Are gullible and easily lied to
– Allow guys to quickly become physical
– Give away their virginity based on the lies a jerk will whisper into her ears
– Don’t mind getting treated like crap
– Often end up dumped and heartbroken
– Do not learn from their mistakes.
In order to protect your tender heart, it’s a good idea to be cautious about the types of guys that you would be willing to date… and watch out how you behave, too. Why?
– Because lots of teenage guys tend to be frogs… not princes.
– Because teenage guys will typically want to go way past kissing if the girl allows it.
– Because many teenage girls are simply too vulnerable, too impulsive, and too emotional.
– Because lots of teenage girls frequently have poor judgment.
– Because teenage guys are typically only interested in what’s in a young girl’s panties.
– Because teenage guys often don’t care about a girl’s feelings.
– Because the types of teenage guys who are bold enough to be dating are frequently focused solely on satisfying their own selfish desires.
– Because teenage girls tend to equate love with kissing and sex (translation – they get their heart trampled), while most young guys don’t (translation – they simply say “See ya later!”).
– Because after the inevitable break-up, a teenage girl will likely feel as though her world has collapsed.
– Because any older guy who would date a young and vulnerable teenage girl is a creep.
Be advised that as time passes, your friends and classmates will probably be expecting you to follow whatever path they are traveling… even if it is a stupid path of dating jerks, making out with random guys, or casual sex. Don’t fall for that kind of peer pressure.
Keeping your panties on until you get married will eliminate 99% of the creeps, losers, and players… and mistakes of passion… which will make your life much happier and simpler in the long run. You’ll also be protected against pregnancy, STD’s, and excessive heartache.
Don’t make too many stupid decisions, don’t date jerks, don’t drink booze or take drugs, don’t have friends who drink or take drugs, listen to your Mom and Dad, read the Bible (the Gospel of John is a good place to start), and then everything will turn out fine.
Those are a few things for you to think about, Jennifer.
Good luck!
Signed, PC
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